You can stop caring now.

I wrote this two nights ago when I wasn’t really in a good mood. Instead of going out or drinking too much wine or throwing a pity party for one, I sat down and I wrote. So I’m telling you now, if you are sad or mad or just not feeling too fabulous today, SIT DOWN AND WRITE. You’ll feel better in a jiffy!


“Tell me, why would you want to be with people who treat you like shit or judge everything you do in YOUR life? That’s right, it’s YOUR life, not his, not hers, not anybody else’s.

Saying otherwise is straight up bullshit.

I know you have to care about some people – those who you call friends, those who, somehow, make you feel loved at some point. Everybody needs to feel loved. But this is what’s wrong with our society these days. People treat others like shit. The reason behind this is that these people are also treated like shit, and so, they treat other people like shit – the cycle goes on. And this is why the world is a crazy, crazy place.

But really, why are you still in unhealthy relationships that just make you go crazy(er), day in and day out? Why are you subjecting yourself to the illusion that because things change and people change, they will all change for the better? Open your eyes now and just look at what’s happening.

The whole world is telling you what to do, people are telling you that this is wrong and that is right. This will never make you happy.

Now is the time you need to learn how to think for yourself. You are wonderful in so many ways, you have to know that – and actually believe it. Fight for your beliefs and go after whatever you are passionate about. People will tell you that this will not make you happy in the long run, but really, now is the time you have to tell them they are wrong when you know they’re wrong. People will tell you how crazy it is that you are doing something just because you want to. People will laugh at you and it will hurt. But now is the time you show them that you are strong and independent enough to finally do what you love to do, and not care about whatever they are saying.

You will fail, you’re not perfect. You will fail many times, but you will get back up and do it all over again, because that’s just how you roll.

People will scare you, they will want to leave you and they will not understand. And you will have to let them go – this is when you learn to stop giving fucks. Today is the day you realize how strong of a person you really are. Fuck it, today is the day you choose your own happiness – not his, not hers, not anybody else’s.”

Author: Mary Elizabeth Francisco

A huge fan of chocolate chip cookies. Hypertensive. Loves ice cream and taking pictures of the sky. Believes that coffee makes the world a better place. Just a girl, not a hero. Not yet, that is.

  • These are some good points. It can be very satisfying to start making your own decisions when others are constantly dictating what you can and can’t do.

  • Carrie Chady Rundhaug

    You make some really great points! Plus I love to write when I am upset as well! I can really look at what I am upset about from another point of view.

  • Adriana Popescu

    The best decisions made are the ones YOU made. Great post! 🙂

  • NooDz TJ

    a very well written reminder we should always keep at the back of our minds x

  • Probably the best post, I’ve read today. Every word girl you written speaks to me. Preach girl!!!!

  • Kristen Carlson

    You make some really great points! It is so important to remember that the best decisions are ones that you make.

  • Subhadrika Sen

    I usually write too when I am sad or something is not right with my mood. I find it a great way to express myself rather then just letting the words vanish in the effects of alcohol or wine. I loved reading your post and you do make a great point. Yes we are not perfect and imperfection is what pushes us forward to better ourselves .

  • Anamika Ojha

    Your post makes a nice read and you have covered very important points! I like making my own decisions and in case of failures, I won’t be blaming anyone for my deeds!